A widely noted French practice: when a baby stirs at night, parents don’t rush in. They pause briefly to check whether the baby is truly awake, not just moving between sleep cycles.

Why it can work

  • Sleep runs in 45–60 minute cycles; babies often wake briefly between them.
  • If you rush in, the baby learns every short cycle needs your help.
  • A brief pause helps the baby learn to link cycles independently.

Pause, listen, then respond — not leaving the baby to cry for long.

IMPORTANT: a brief pause is not the same as leaving a baby to cry alone. For a hungry newborn, respond promptly — they need night feeds. Never compromise safe sleep (back, firm surface, no loose blankets).